And when that gospel says “You are wrong for being the way you are and have to change and if you knew Jesus you wouldn’t be like that”? Which is NOT what it says.

I’m pretty sure that, for example, Matt 5:28, which you quote there, isn’t just glancing at a woman, thinking she’s kinda hot, and moving on. It sounds to me like the words of a man tired of seeing people leer and cat cal. “Looking at a woman lustfully” is a little bit more than just finding her attractive.