Okay, I see where we are talking across each other.

BDSM is fine. We run BDSM stuff all the time. We just ask that it be made clear that's what it is. Bondage, spanking, master/slave...we've run some variant on all of it.

The issue with rape fantasy in porn is that it has become so normalized in the industry, often with real issues around consent, that it contributes to rape culture. You know it's wrong...but...

The answer is probably clarity. Clarity that this is fantasy. Appropriate content warnings. "Hey, this one gets a little rough."

And here is another issue with porn.

In your spy movie, the killing isn't real. Nobody dies.

In porn, the sex is real and somebody has to have it.

And in some cases performers are, in fact, being coerced...contractually and financially...and that is what has to stop.

The "morally questionable" stuff you are enjoying may actually be happening, and it is clear you don't want that.

So you do want ethical porn, at least I hope so, even if it contains scenarios that are on the kinky side.

(For BDSM porn I would recommend looking for production companies that specialize in it and have ethical standards acknowledged in that community. Because, yes, consent is a bit different in kink...but at the same time, consent is what distinguishes kink from abuse).