This. The ethical pornography movement is something anyone who is interested in consuming porn should learn about.
Ethical porn:
* Follows legal requirements
* Respects the rights of performers (and pays them well)
* Has good working conditions, including having performers use condoms
* Shows realistic sex as well as fantasy
* Celebrates sexual diversity
* Is made consensually, meaning that everything is discussed with performers before hand, their desire not to work with a specific partner is respected, their boundaries stuck to. Alas, there are instances of performers being directly lied to about a scene and forced into stuff they aren't comfortable with.
* Does not include fake rape even if the performers agree to it, or similar.
I read slush for a science fiction erotica podcast (Meaning that aliens, monsters, tentacles, teledildonics, all kinds of fun entirely fantastical stuff are involved) and we have certain hard content rules that follow along these lines. Even though we are text-based, there are things we don't promote or run. Specifically:
* No characters that are, or appear to be, underage either physically or mentally
* No animals
* No rape or sexual assault presented to titillate the audience. If rape or sexual assault is mentioned or included it has to be presented as bad and result in consequences for the perpetrator
* No snuff. (This is a story in which a character dies or is killed during the sex act).
* No vore. (This is a furry fetish where a character is eaten or consumed during the sex act, often with some magic causing them to fully recover afterwards).
* All sex must be consensual, although consent can be part of a contract.
* No stories involving raceplay, racist tropes, or the idea that African-American men have giant cocks. This is a thing. It's a racial stereotype.
* No stories that present any kind of consensual sex as bad. M/M and F/F should be presented as equally valid. (Actually this policy has led to us having a shortage of M/F stories).
* No stories that denigrate sex workers, including sexbots.
Guess how many of these rules have been broken?
That would be all of them. I have war stories. I have been sent stories that made me not want to be alone with the author.
And that is the problem. Pornography is not the problem. Erotica is not the problem. Straight men who want to fantasize about hurting women are the problem....for the most part. And of course the underage stuff.
You can find porn that is made ethically and honestly? Any movie where everyone is having fun is already inherently better.
Which also ties in to our cultural assumption that sex workers, including porn performers, must be doing it out of desperation. We don't expect them to be having fun, but I will bet that in the good studios they are having a blast.
Vice has a good article on ethical porn here.
https://www.vice.com/en/article/z34db9/ethical-porn-what-is-it-sites-to-try